Hello!  Welcome to By Love Refined!

I’m Lauren, wife and mom to three beautiful babies.  I have a deep passion for my Catholic faith, and for living life well.

I started this blog back in 2013 when my son was born.  Initially I was using it as an outlet to share family news with our loved ones in New Mexico, but quickly realized that it is a great outlet for sharing my love for and knowledge of the faith.  It’s become a passion of mine, and I’m so happy you are here to share in it with me.

I really hope this blog serves as a place for you to feel inspired in the faith, and encouraged to grow deeper in your love for the Lord–especially through the lens of Catholicism.   I pray most of all, that you are reminded here that you are deeply loved by God and that he wants you to draw ever closer to him.


I am from Las Cruces, New Mexico, and I miss home everyday.  However, along with my family, I’ve carved out a new place for me in the world in Kansas City.

In 2008, I left home to pursue my degree in theology at Benedictine College.  Not only did I receive an awesome Catholic education there, but I also met my future husband, too.  (What a great deal!)

In December of 2015, I finished my Masters of Art in Theology at the University of Dallas.  I’m currently teaching RCIA at one of our local parishes.  It is one of my greatest pleasures to witness so many people make their journey home to the Catholic faith through RCIA.


Joe and I started dating just two weeks before I graduated from Benedictine College.  We made the leap into a long-distanced relationship right away, and looking back now I can only attribute our journey together to divine providence.  I know God had a hand in our relationship.

Joe is my best friend, and he lifts me up everyday.  I remember praying for my husband when I was younger, and I know without a doubt, he is everything I asked God for  in a man. IMG_9398.JPG

In 2013 we started our family with our first baby Elijah.  He is 4 now, and he is spunky, wild, and as funny as can be. I count myself incredibly blessed to be his mother–he makes my world bright and beautiful.

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Life only got brighter in 2015 with the addition of Lucia to our clan.  She is my dainty, yet sassy girl. She is my little one who walks with caution, dances any time she hears a beat, and smiles so bright.  She is a sweetheart, a great hugger, and just adores her big brother.  My heart overflows with love for this little blue-eyed girl.

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We welcomed our third baby into the world not long ago. Emilia is the sweetest baby, only crying when she needs something, and always smiling when she doesn’t. I can’t help myself from hugging and kissing on her any chance I get!

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Navigating life with three kids has been fun! I hear all the time now that I “have my hands full,” and what I want to say in response to that is, “You should see my heart!”
I am at home with my babies, and really wouldn’t have it any other way.



Saint John Paul the Great, The Divine Mercy,  hot sauce, Breaking Bad, organizing, cooking, Rocky, wearing jeans and a T-shirt, The Office, Garth Brooks, Good Will Hunting, TCBY, Saint Monica, anything savory, my Day Designer, Saint Padre Pio, Madam Secretary, Hatch NM chile, being outside when it’s Fall in Kansas City, Kings of Leon, black coffee, live music, and reading.  Lots and lots of reading.

Thank you for stopping by By Love Refined!  Hope you come again!


3 replies on “About Me

  1. I grew up in NM, too, although I moved to Albuquerque when I was 8, it is where I consider home. I left when I was 28 and moved to Pennsylvania, then New York City and now Tennessee. I still miss New Mexico, especially the food. 🙂

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